This is one of my favorite quotes of all times. It’s so special to me because a very important person in my life said it to me just days before he left this earthly realm.
Over the years this quote comes back to me at the most divine times. It popped back into my awareness just the other day. When my friend first spoke this to me, I was still externally seeking love and fulfillment from outside of myself. Like most people, I didn’t believe or even understand that I was worthy of this love or really any love for that matter.
Here’s the kicker……. Do you know where this love has to start? Do you know who’s love you are worthy of that will make the sun blush in admiration? It’s yours!!!!! This love cannot come from anywhere, anyone, any situation outside of you. This is our work! I know very few people who have mastered true self love, including myself. It’s a journey and a cycle, and the most important thing we do in this life. Because until we learn to love ourselves, we will never be able to connect with the right person to have a healthy external love relationship with.
This is not the work of the weak. This takes so much deep diving into ourselves. Looking at our patterns, our conditioning, catching ourselves in these over and over again, and literally rewiring our way of being. AND it is SOOOOOO worth it!
Sure, you can go and get into a relationship and enjoy the sticky sweet lust, the short term feelings of being complete and whole, and create something entirely codependent that will keep you stuck in your vicious cycles until you take your last breath.
I believe there is more. I believe in love. I believe in healthy, unattached, supportive love, where both people own their shit, continue to work on themselves, and love and support one another on the journey. There has to be space for vulnerability, trust, communication, and a willingness to be seen as exactly who you are, imperfectly you.
So in honor of Self Love month, I offer you these thoughts. I invite you to join this journey if you haven’t already. Because you ARE worthy of loving yourself so bright that the sun blushes in admiration. And from this love, you will have an abundance of love overflow to share with the exact right person if you so choose. AND you will attract that exact right person from the vibration of your very bright and beautiful love of self.
So come on now, Love YO SELF!
I can tell you this all day. Now it’s up to you if you choose to believe it. Can you believe, accept, live this truth?